May 21st, 2011 One of the most difficult aspects of domestic abuse is that abusers warp reality. By warping reality the abuser is able to deny responsibility for their actions. Victims end up confused, questioning reality, and wondering if they have gone crazy.
Abusers are able to accomplish this distortion of reality by limiting your ability to reality test. [...]
November 12th, 2010 Domestic abuse teaches you to lie.
You lie to yourself in the form of denial to protect yourself from the horrors you have experienced.
You lie to your friends, family, and coworkers to spare them from being burdened by your ordeal.
You lie to your abuser in an effort to keep him/her happy so you wont get hurt.
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November 3rd, 2010 Journaling is a wonderful way to combat denial. By keeping a journal you can hold on to just how severe events really were at the time, even as your mind struggles to diminish them. A journal allows you to establish a more reliable history. You will find that as you begin journaling about current situations [...]
October 24th, 2010 The past can be like quicksand, holding you back. The more you struggle the deeper you sink. Accept that what once happened is a part of you but does not have to define you. Stop struggling and live.
… there’s plenty of time to be dead. ~ Anonymous