August 22nd, 2011 Things that are ridged, like glass, break under pressure. Things that are flexible, like a tree, stretch and give under pressure so that they can return to their original shape when the pressure has passed. The glass and the tree do not get to choose what they will be but as a person you have [...]
August 15th, 2011 It is not wise to be unable to forgive or forget because the negative feelings you hold on to will only hurt you. It is naive to forgive and forget because like history if we do not remember the past we are likely to repeat it. The wise forgive so that they are free to [...]
August 10th, 2011 Gaslight (1940) – Directed by George Cukor and Thorold Dickinson, starring Charles Boyer and Ingrid Bergman. Most domestic violence movies seem to focus on physical violence, this may be because when most people think of domestic violence physical violence is what comes to mind. Or it may be because physical violence is so striking on [...]
August 8th, 2011 Victims often blame themselves for being victims. As long as you are angry with yourself or hold on to self-hatred you are still a victim. In order to be truly free you must not only forgive your abuser but also yourself. This is the key to victory.
Forgive yourself for being a victim so you can [...]
August 5th, 2011 It is not surprising that women who experience intimate partner violence and/or sexual assault are more likely to experience mental health issues such as anxiety, depression and substance abuse. Even though the connection between the two is logical the numbers are still shocking. Recent research indicates that 57 percent of the women with a history [...]
August 3rd, 2011 Domestic Violence for Beginners
by Alisa Deltufo (1995) Writers & Readers Publishing
This is a quirky little book written in comic book style. Being so use to academic books, I did not take this one seriously at first. However, it is a very good introduction to domestic violence. What I like best about this book is [...]
August 1st, 2011 In a domestic violence relationship the abuser has control of your happiness. When you are free you can choose to take back that control by no longer allowing the abuser to have anything to do with your happiness. The only way to do that is to forgive. What can be more annoying to someone who [...]